Having been very happily married now for 27 years, I’ve always thought that marriage is about compromise. However, I read just today that it’s about more than that...according to Sandra Murray and her research team from the University of Buffalo (I was born in Buffalo in 1945), marriage is also about self-delusion. Her scientists followed 222 newlyweds through their first three years together. The ones who went into marriage idealizing their partners ended up happier together than those who went in with clearer eyes. “Why is it better to look at your flabby hubby and see Fabio?” According to Murray, it has to do with the vast powers of the human heart over the human brain. People can convince themselves that a spouse is better looking, smarter, kinder, and more virtuous that he/she actually is…at least for a few years. So my advice to bridal couples is: get married with rose-colored glasses and never take them off!!!
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